Hate is Heavy

Over the past few days, I have come to a realization: emotions like love and hate are, as a matter of fact, quite exhausting. They occupy your headspace, consume your time, impact your work, and, generally speaking, affect your entire life. They require a significant amount of effort, but, of course, love brings happiness while hate can drive one to madness. It is a burden to carry around. Considering we all already have some baggage to carry, imagine having to carry hate as well.

I mean, goodness, the work involved! You have to complain about them daily until everyone in your vicinity knows about them and can recite your story. Then, people get bored, and you need more content, so you have to delve deeper, overanalyze things, and engage in mandatory social media stalking. And let's not forget about those voodoo dolls in the closet that need attention. Uff! It's so much work to hate people!

But on a serious note, it does take a toll on you. It's like a parasite feeding off of you. In the end, the only person you are hurting is yourself, and nobody else. People listen to your stories and move on in life—everyone does. But you are the one stuck with that weight. This concept is well explained in one of the episodes of "How I Met Your Mother," where the gang discusses their pits and how they place people they hate in them. It's a long, dark, and dingy tunnel where people are left to suffer. Everyone has these certain pit people in their lives. For some, it's that ex who moved on a little too quickly or that boss who ruins your day, or that neighbor who is so loud that it disrupts your sleep. However, if you keep watching, at the end of the episode, they all realize that the real prisoners of that pit are themselves.

What I am trying to convey is that you shouldn't have to walk around with something like this. We should forgive people, even those who haven't asked for it and may never. Holding onto it in your heart will only hurt you. By forgiving others, you are truly forgiving yourself too. Learn from your experiences, identify your mistakes, forgive others, and move on. Keep the positive things in mind and send the rest to the memory dump. It might be hard, and you might still feel hurt—that's okay, take your time, but eventually, get there. Hate is a heavy thing to carry around.