#2 Write something that someone told you about yourself that you never forget

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It took me a lot of time to think of something. This was one of the first things I did in the morning. Looked at today's topic. Aah, a few things instances did come to mind, but nothing was as clear to me. A rewatching of a Bollywood movie and an hour-long bike ride later, this is what I came up with. 

 So I think I am 7 years old. I am playing with my bade papa who is my father's elder brother in his house in Lucknow. I don't remember what we were doing at the time, but I am assuming we were playing some silly game. That same day, I heard him remark to my parents, that "Aru bahut intelligent ladki hai"
And this was something that got reinforced time and again while I was in school. It was maybe another relative, or a family friend or maybe a teacher. 

But somehow this stuck. And this is how I saw myself, and I think to a certain extent still do. I am not the pretty girl, I am not the girl next door, I am not a hot and sexy girl, I am the smart girl.  The intelligent one. The one that cared more about maths problems than barbie dolls. And of course, I am not a super-smart, genius type person, I do okay. That is how I have subconsciously classified myself and at times pacified myself as well. 



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